Wednesday, December 31, 2008


  • 13:17 And we're off #
  • 17:58 First stop #
  • 20:50 Second stop: #
  • 22:36 Pittsburgh, down, safe. #
  • 00:22 trying to grind through some accumulated email - discovering a couple of lapsed deadlines, oops. #
  • 02:43 @thespophile I saw them when I was in the 7th grade. #
  • 02:44 Email grinding complete - for the moment #
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Tuesday, December 30, 2008

Clearly I'm Not Trying

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  • 09:39 Off to see the oncologist. :-) #
  • 13:31 iPhone battery dying after only a few hours - mostly on standby. Bad phone? Or am I doing something wrong? #
  • 13:31 @KatyK plenty of good places to eat #
  • 16:11 @bpeoples nope, it only checks when I check. #
  • 16:13 Lunch time, then start to get ready to leave - although still not sure I can, or should. #
  • 22:21 Trying to batten things down. Bought a cat carrier. RoLaren, BreyTak, Freya, Petra, & Bean... Meet Tyvel. #
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Monday, December 29, 2008

Rounding Third

and turning for home. Sorry about the quadruple shorties crop. Things here are tough when it comes to finding time for blogging. Actually there's a lot of time, but the hospital just sucks the life out of you and you find yourself just sitting quietly - contemplating.

So, we've picked up some professional help for mom and for my dad, and I am taking advantage of that for what is likely my last chance to get home before the train goes over the top of the hill.

I was talking to Mrs TANBI the other day and I compared our current situation waiting for my mom's health to change to being on a roller coaster at the very top of the first hill. You aren't hearing the click-click-click anymore, so you know the drop is coming but it hasn't started yet, and you really cannot tell when it will. I can remember being on rides where it feels like the train has just stopped. That's sort of what it feels like to be here now. At the bottom of the hill you can see a funeral, a memorial service, the house, my dad and the rest of our lives; but for the moment we're just hanging up at the top of the hill.

And so in that split instant of time I am trying to go back home, recharge, figure out the first few weeks of the semester and what to do if I can't be there, and then maybe look for someplace for my dad for after. All of which feels totally secondary to being here, but I guess needs to be done too.

So tomorrow we do 41-94-90/94-90-80/90-80/76-76-79-579-376. Me, Mrs. TANBI, and my parent's cat who will be joining our household.


  • 12:07 Trying to figure out today's plan. Hospital I think. #
  • 14:19 Hangin with mom. Thinking Michael's for lunch. #
  • 18:59 scamming hospital internet #
  • 21:34 Dinner, Wild Fish - Deerfield #
  • 21:35 @KatyK congrats on the fiance thing! #
  • 23:20 making up caregiver to do lists, wondering what I am forgetting #
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Sunday, December 28, 2008


  • 12:04 it's so soupy here, I hope I can even find the hospital today #
  • 15:04 mmm Walker Brothers #
  • 16:42 well, today is "Get on with it already" day. #
  • 22:01 This could be dangerous #
  • 00:04 Question:If you have insurance (like Blue Cross, not an HMO) in one state and move out of state will you have problems using that insurance? #
  • 01:45 First tweeted photo: #
  • 02:15 updated the greenpage for the first time in a few days: #
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Saturday, December 27, 2008


  • 09:52 change of pace, today we take Dad to the hospital - thinking I can't go home when I was planning to #
  • 12:35 first trip a false alarm, that doctor is off today, now going back to see mom #
  • 16:13 @jhuntington I saw that online - it's HUGE #
  • 16:14 mid-day hospital break, lunch at Chipole and then home to try to clear the ice off the driveway #
  • 21:22 taking the rest of the night off #
  • 00:11 Free dinner on Jess - woohoo #
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Friday, December 26, 2008


  • 13:48 Happy Christmas - off to the hospital... #
  • 00:08 home from the hospital, day coulda been worse #
  • 00:45 got an iPhone gift card for the holidays - now just have to find time to trade it in #
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Thursday, December 25, 2008


So, either you can look at this as an intermission from my more regular posting (which is why the "shorties" are piling up) or as an intermission to the parade of tweets - really its all about your perspective I guess.

Today I had what will in all likelihood be my last Christmas with my mom. The more I think about it though the more I realize that our last Christmas was last Christmas; because even though we did spend the occasion together, it hasn't been much of a holiday.

Mom continues in hospice care at Highland Park Hospital. She's responsive and aware, but those are probably the best things you can say. Moment to moment it is difficult to tell if anyone is home. All things begin equal I think we're talking about days and not weeks, but weeks would not surprise me. Months... who knows?

There continues to be a lot of churning around various logistical issues. As a professional project manager it is extremely frustrating as there are several systemic unknowns which are impossible to nail down. So it's all contingencies. Additionally there are all kinds of rules which I am trying to learn on the fly. For example: Medicare will pay for a residential rehab facility at 100% - but only after a three night hospital stay. So, if you're loved one is home bound and needs 24 hour care, you have to wait until they are injured enough to require a three night hospital stay before you can tap medicare as a resource. Of course by then the problems are inherently much worse than they were when you first thought about rehab, but at least now you have a way to pay for it - for 20 days anyway.

So, I am delving into hospice but at the same time into rehab and home care (on the one end of the spectrum) as well as cemetery and memorial service - and financial issues (on the other). If it weren't personal it might be interesting, no, even if it weren't personal it would be bizarre.

And then on top of the mom issues are the dad issues. Those are in their own special way even more interesting as they have a long term element to them. Perhaps I will find time to talk about them later.


  • 12:13 off to the hospital #
  • 20:07 Hanging with Marisa getting ready for a Christmas Eve dinner at home. #
  • 01:29 unwrapping gifts with mom at the hospital was... well it was #
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Wednesday, December 24, 2008


  • 20:39 HP - down safe #
  • 00:51 I forgot how much I didn't like shoveling that drawing #
  • 01:28 I forgot how much I hated shoveling that driveway #
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Tuesday, December 23, 2008


  • 12:23 all of a sudden there's a fairly long list #
  • 17:22 about half the list is down - half to go! #
  • 22:21 Still working on the list after taking time out for dinner with the Gilboas #
  • 01:45 trying to find a good driving weather forecast - and failing really, but what I can piece together seems ok to go #
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Monday, December 22, 2008

Belated Day Four Photos

By instant messenger, David Holcomb chats in the fourth day of semester reviews...

"David Holcomb" (11:01:19 AM): Sarah - who is glad to have rediscovered her love of theatre.

"David Holcomb" (11:01:53 AM): Rebecca - who (sometimes) felt (some) class was an after-thought (sic)

"David Holcomb" (11:02:35 AM): Bryan - who says you can't ever do enough planning.

"David Holcomb" (11:03:04 AM): Jeannie - who likes to use color on her paperwork.

"David Holcomb" (11:03:29 AM): Chase - who learned he like to build things

"David Holcomb" (11:06:17 AM): Elize - who spent her semester sewing in the costume shop and the scene shop.

That's a wrap, see you in the spring (for the return of the shoe competition?!?)


  • 15:32 Stillers #
  • 17:22 not the Stillers I was hoping for #
  • 20:01 slowly but surely preparing for another trip #
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Sunday, December 21, 2008

"So Hard to Buy For"

or "stealing image bandwidth"


  • 00:35 @thespophile hand-me-down, mom clubwear - nice #
  • 00:36 @KatyK so far she likes it #
  • 00:37 back to plan a, Chicago, tuesdayish, for a weekish, after that? In motion the future always is. #
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Saturday, December 20, 2008

On the Nth Day of Critsmas

Something I have been thinking about but not really working on. It could be better, maybe I will continue to percolate on it for next year. Last verse:

On the 12th day of Critsmas the faculty gave to me...

Weekly advisor appointments...

Larry Powell's email ...

a list of CAPS referrals ...

critique about my crit board...

advice to take some time off...

thoughts about alarm clocks...

time management suggestions...


opinions about my hair...

a meeting with Anne Witchner...

the designer inside of me...

and Feedback from folks I'd never seen!

If you sing it you'll hear it (you really have to land on the first syllable of "management" for the cadence to come out. Maybe next year I'll do a video.

Happy holidays!


  • 13:25 trying to figure out how to get back to Chicago and spell my sister sooner #
  • 16:34 a little less stressed today, a little. making bday dinner reservations for Mrs TANBI #
  • 00:05 Birthday dinner at Casbah with a singing card and the gift of a Kindle reader (shouldn'ta tweaked me off BN). Fun had by all! #
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ARRGH! THREE SHORTIES NO NO NO NO... Have to check the weather to see which day will be best for cross-country driving, there have been a few lately that were distinctly less so... For about ten minutes in the middle of the day today it was an amazingly nice day in Pittsburgh... I've been learning a lot about medicare and hospice lately. I get the feeling "assisted living" may be next, but not for the same person... I briefly flirted with work today, seems like it's fairly well tied down, for the moment... It really rarely is a good thing when the phone rings after midnight... Mrs. TANBI's birthday dinner at Casbah, pretty much nothing we ordered was what we thought it would be, but it was good anyway... No photos from Day 4 of semester reviews. I guess if I really wanted them I should have gone... The Kindle Reader is set up exactly so that what I wanted to do was impossible... I haven't so much been paying attention to the news, I wonder if it's over for Al Franken yet... I can't remember the very last episode of The West Wing. Was it good? Bravo is rerunning them but I am not sure I saw it... It just occurred to me that BSG is back in less than six weeks, that's pretty cool... No TD's in Scenic Fabrication & Installation this year. I guess I need to start thinking about revising that course... I think I am getting an iPhone, although I am not sure I want an iPhone, and then there's the fact I just bought a new phone - good thing I didn't take the discount... Accumulating snow in Las Vegas, how about that? I wonder if the casinos took bets on the average depth... 80,000 hits! Thanks so much for that...

Friday, December 19, 2008


  • 15:12 Getting my act together #
  • 21:53 wasted day, I wonder how I will waste tomorrow #
  • 00:38 @KatyK don't think I'll get the chance #
  • 00:39 Looking into accelerating my return to Chicago. #
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Thursday, December 18, 2008


  • 11:41 12 Hours to go #
  • 01:50 @PunkyPicc could be worse, could be 2 or 3 days after payday #
  • 01:50 @ninaksimon that is a seriously good idea #
  • 01:52 I think really Jessica is doing the heavy lifting #
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A Short Update

to keep three shorties from piling up.

I am back in PA having left my sister holding the bag in Chicago. Probably be turning around again in a couple of days to pick up the slack for her. There are a lot of great people around over there and even with them it is really, really hard to move forward. The goofiest part is that sometimes the moving forward part invariably also moves one closer to the end, so really you don't want to move forward even though you really have no choice but to do so. Of further complication is that from a project management standpoint the thing is always seeming to be in danger of spiraling out of control at a moments notice. In some ways Mom's health care is the least of the problems - Dad after Mom, that feels like it will be much more difficult as the permutations are so much more varied. Mom's at least on a track, its not a happy track, but it's also one with few branches - more just about what direction and how fast. Dad... I'm not going to know where to begin, and once again I'm going to be late to the party.

I'll close with this thought. I was telling my sister how before going out this time I was thinking about bringing the camcorder and getting mom on tape: "say something to your grandchildren..." But really it's too late, if we did it now it would be more like a monologue by me or my sister with my mom answering questions yes or no. If you ever have a thought of doing such a thing do it now. Make it an annual tradition or something so it stays contemporary, but don't wait or you'll miss the window. Things just change too quickly.

Hanging in.

Wednesday, December 17, 2008


  • 10:20 I think its likely that I am going to need more than the two days I have left to set up the palliative care #
  • 13:40 @aerdin marisa is there, thanks #
  • 13:41 hospice and palliative are different, who knew? learn something new every day - today maybe moreso #
  • 15:28 hmm hospice care right at the hospital - why didn't I think of that? #
  • 15:28 @thespophile and apparently named Liz or Peter #
  • 20:47 now that, that's snow - the Chicago way. #
  • 22:46 @KatyK didn't hear 5, and didn't really believe 4, but it was slow #
  • 22:46 feeds really pile up when you're at the hospital all day #
  • 23:41 just blackmailed me into spending another $17 (otherwise it wasn't going to give me a seat - not cool) #
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Tuesday, December 16, 2008


  • 13:48 got my laptop on my 'rents wireless - FINALLY - anyone know how to set a new password on an airport extreme? #
  • 16:39 off the ventilator, so thats a step in the right direction, although we're not much up to steps now #
  • 18:45 waiting for the oncologist #
  • 01:22 trying to hold it all together for another day or two #
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Semester Reviews - Day Three

As another reporter bites the dust. Stringer David Holcomb takes up the charge today...

Aaron, who likes to work on challenges with more concrete solutions.

Eric has found a slightly different direction to continue his education

Alana is glad she overloaded on classes this semester.

Nicole learned that there are much scarier people in the world than Dick Block

Chapel got a little lost Into the Woods, but found her way out by extension

Ryan feels that he is often right, which he admits can come off as pushy.

Monday, December 15, 2008


  • 14:32 on my way to the hospital #
  • 23:50 windy in the windy city #
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Sunday, December 14, 2008


  • 16:26 Looking at the January Harbor Freight circular. Seems like they figure if you're holiday shopping, you're already done. #
  • 20:33 suppertime! #
  • 00:07 unresponsive, intubated... unfortunate #
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Saturday, December 13, 2008

But What to Do?

MWC News - A Site Without Borders - - Illinois Citizens Deserve Corrupt Government: "We must not depend on electing individuals to public office to truly reform the system. We have a corrupt two-party plutocracy. It is time to stop believing the lies of both Democrats and Republicans. We can keep putting many of them in prison, but all that happens is that more corrupt and dishonest politicians get elected. Just as it has happened for the Illinois governorship."

By Popular Demand

To quench an almost insurmountable shoe thirst, TANBI stringer Ken Chu submits the following from Friday's crit session:

I kept my eyes out for shoes and saw some good stuff, but had to send you a photo of this one just because I thought it was so unique. It was worn by Kelly Le Vine.


  • 14:10 Dropping off the face of the Earth #
  • 18:28 the eye doctor won't come to the rehab, how nice #
  • 23:38 thank goodness for Tina #
  • 00:15 still looking for this year's PTM type people gift ideas #
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Friday, December 12, 2008

Semester Reviews - Day Two

So, seeing today's pictures really makes me feel like k-rap about missing crits this semester. Truth be told I do some of my best work over these days normally. I could have used that this time around. But there will be more in the spring, and the semester after that, and so on. Still, can't help but feel like I am missing out on something.

Tina continues her intrepid reporting. I'll stifle my comments today.

Kevin – newly declared SM/PM, for whom the sun didn’t come out until after mid-semester but is working on better weather next term.

Julianna – who is searching for the right place...

Alex – who found out how bookbinding will make him a better TD.

Candace – is now a part-time PM but still has a seriously arty crit board..

Maddie – who has found her dream job, one that combines performance, management and motorcycles.

Kelli – new SM/PM who has already made friends with the new head of the school.

Matt – a double-focus TD/LD, who actually expressed a desire to take Wolf’s Colon again.

Derek – who’s revolutionizing the sport of foosball (and demonstrated how to a packed room).

Michael ‘Rico’ – who had analogies about questionable-weight gorillas and sticks in certain places to show his progress this semester.

Naomi – who balanced scene painting and budgets, and reports she had a rough semester, although it’s hard to tell.

Harriet – who learned to make databases and shoot guns, all in the line of duty, and recommends history classes to everyone.

Everyone have a great weekend.